Dear Amy: My wife and I eat out at restaurants frequently.

I know the waitstaff rely on tips as part of their compensation.

I often tip between 30 percent and 50 percent of the bill.

I think this is generous and should be acknowledged by the server.

Just a simple “thank you” would suffice.

My wife says it is my choice to tip generously and I should not expect a thank you.

With all the discussions on tipping lately, I think it’s a two-way street, a good tip deserves a thank you.

– Unappreciated Tipper

Dear Unappreciated: It might overall be good for business if a server noticed your generous tip and responded by saying, “I’m happy you enjoyed your meal. We look forward to seeing you again!” but the server might not see the amount of the tip immediately, or they may have been trained not to comment on tips to the customer.

You can email Amy Dickinson at [email protected] or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068.